You know, when it comes to marriage and family, well, things changed. Change for better? Well, yes, you can spend more time with your cute little one. But then again, you gonna miss your single life, like partying, going out with your girl friends, doing crazy stuff.
No no, now that you are a mama and a responsible wife, you might spending the rest of your life repeated the daily routine everyday.
So, what's about the relationship with your husband? All goes well? You two might have less intimate or sex, given that most of the babies will prefer to sleep with you two at the early age.
You might not even spend much romantic time, or spend on lavish dinner. Probably you have the same feelings like me, lazy for make up or to wear even nicer, since most of the time your baby will be pulling your hair or pulling your dress, not to mention high heels to chase your children around!
And then, just out of curiosity, you can sense something gone wrong. Husband seems to check on the phone, gluing to it, and telling you some pretty girls when he is drunk. Asking if he still loves me, he replies: "Well, maybe a bit." sounds like a joke, and woman has this sixth sense telling you this is not right.
Can't hide the feelings, and out of no choice, I got to check on his phone. Shocking! seeing his intimate conversation with other girls, some sex joke, porn joke!
What did he says when I confront him?
"IT'S A JOKE."
Huh? What is this? What kind of answer am I getting? How can I forgive him with such answer?
I was so mad, I couldn't sleep for days and nights, couldn't believe it happened to me.
So, long gone, the trusts.
I was so mad, I even spread it in Facebook, showing those naughty conversation. Of course, some stopped me from doing it, as it will spoil my reputation, so does my husband. Some saying I am naive, some just comfort me, meet me to know what's going on. I was so pissed off, but then again I was lost.
So what does the husband will do to save the relationship? Try not to contact you when the wife is mad. Huh? And then, try to communicate with you as if NOTHING HAPPENED. Huh?
And after willing to meet the husband, he said the same stupid thing. It's only for fun. just a joke, nothing really happened.
Make me feel so heart broken and disgusted with such act.
Lost. Who to turned to? I ended up calling up a divorced lady friend who has encountered similar experience. She is more senior than me, and she asked me one simple question: "Is this guy worth to stay in your life? Is he a good husband?"
"Yes, he is."
"Okay, good. re-council with him, talk things through. But, from now on, my girl, always learn to
protect yourself, protect your rights, your property, learn how to love yourself, dress up nice, make up pretty, enjoy life. Always remember this."
And then, I realized. Alright, I will calm down, meet husband up and see what he says.
Of course, he denies everything and says he doesn't mean it. He just do something stupid because he was so stressed with work and feel bored.
Well, whether he did the adultery or not, only god and he himself knows. And yes, true enough, it is pointless to pinpointing the issue when such mistakes just happened.
and one more thing, as long as your partner really regret on what he/ she had done, forgive him/ her and move on.
Well, can I still trust my partner? 100% NO.
But, it is pointless as well to keep on do stalking or checking on your partner. It would be waste of time, and there's no respect on own privacy.